Dating men love the chase
You'll resent the man for not giving you the key to your happiness – as if it's his fault.
You are not relating to him in the moment but rather treating him as an objective. EC: I understand the chase can feel like a sincere and genuine pursuit of love.
Why do so many smart, successful women pursue men they know don't want the same things?I know all sorts of chasers who say, "I just want him to love me!This is so unfair; I can't believe men are like this." Meanwhile, from the guy's perspective, she transforms from the fun-loving, easy-to-be-around woman into Gollum from "The Lord of the Rings." I'll tie it all up: When people chase, they drain the color and joy from their lives.Men like chasing women for two primary reasons, for their ego and to actually understand if they want the girl.But the real reason behind why a woman plays hard to get and makes the men chase her is entirely different.